It's Complicated: "I Think Her Son is Autistic"
Q:My good friend's 4-year-old son has major speech delays, terrible tantrums, and bizarre behavior that includes frequent rocking from side to side. I've suggested she talk to her pediatrician about autism, but she totally dismisses it. I know something's off. What should I do? — N.G., 32, ARIZONA
A:Unless you're an autism specialist, you really can't say for certain what's going on with this child, so don't force the issue. No mother wants to hear a bad word against her kid. Once, a parent suggested that my daughter was uncoordinated, and I almost took her down right there at the PTA meeting. But I also know how frustrated you must feel: Why can't your friend see what's right in front of her nose? Well, she can and she can't. Whatever's going on with her son surely hasn't escaped her notice. For all you know, she might be losing sleep over it, staying up late Googling his symptoms, and eating too much ice cream instead of making an appointment with a doctor. And even if she does nothing, the pediatrician should pick up on these issues at the boy's next checkup. So rest assured, she'll have to face up to this soon enough. In the meantime, when you and your friend talk, be open to anything she might want to share about her son; she could give you a chance to voice your concern (but that doesn't mean shoving autism pamphlets in her face!). This is her child, and she needs to come to her own realizations. Just be there to offer judgment-free support when she does.
Advice guru Karen Karbo is a mom, a teacher, and the author of the new book .
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